Monthly Archives March 2018

Ode to an Office Chair

It is not black, but a rich maroon leather, so soft and buttery.  The support for the back is attentive and tends to hold you upright so that you will “sit up and get some work done”. But alas, is it the chair or the giver? It was a association meeting of sorts.  There were the silent auction items on tables around the room.  One was this office chair.  My had decided to retire early.   I was in the market. So I bid . . . and won. Then the issue of delivery arrived.  Connecting with the provider, lets call
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The 6th Listening Skill

Steven Covey gave us the 5 listening skills.  Simply it starts with Apathy – “I don’t know and I don’t care”.   This is the world of pity, and indifference. Sympathy – We now listen, but we are just listen because of our own self interests.  We listen to respond. Empathy – We listen, to understand and feel with our hearts.  To put ourselves into the others place Major NOTE:  Empathy is processed in the brain where pain is registered.   If someone is not careful they will soon have Empathy Burnout.  Hence the reason there is such high burnout with doctors
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The evil sibling to Humility and true reality is . . . . .

Ocean crossings require constant corrections based on changing environment. Education that is only backward looking lacks the total Janus wisdom of application of knowledge based on future states.  Perhaps why generals are best prepared for the last battle in the last war. Reality is not truth based.  Reality for us is based on our own biases.  Our redefining of the daily wash of life so we can maintain a degree of sanity and control in our lives.  The great enemy of real education, of service, of winning then is pride.  The inability to accept what is.  Protect the ego.  Hedge
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Conversation with a true charismatic. . . er . . .my nephew.

There are those who you KNOW are charismatic.  Bill Clinton, Oprah, JFK, Ronald Reagan.  In business it gets a little more subjective.  In life it gets very rare because it doesn’t always follow power. Often position gives charisma.  You run a Fortune 100, there is an implied charisma.  Doug McMillan, the new President of Walmart might inherit charisma because of position.  But those around him say, “he is the most charismatic person I have ever known.” Recently I had a conversation with a nephew.  It was him, my oldest sister, and my youngest daughter and me.  Personal, close, family. Afterward,
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“Seriously, what are the proactive things that speakers do to get engagements?” – A NSA Mountainwest Presentation

On March 21st, the Mountainwest Chapter of the National Speakers Association will be having their 2018 event titled: Paid to Speak.  As I will be presenting I thought it would save attendees some time if they could just listen and not have to take notes.  So the following are the points that I will be making.  To all you attendees.  Enjoy. Do they, the Customers, have money? (If no . . . Start over, i.e. – see Association, Government, Education, and/or Corporation)   There are so many speakers who want to talk to mothers who have experience being single and falling in
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